There will be hardly anyone living in Pune city who had not heard about "Garware Balbhavan". It is a well known recreational center located in the heart of the Pune city. It is known for its interesting and meaningful work in the field of child development since 1985.
It all started in 1979. This year was announced as ‘The International Children’s Year'. Keeping this in mind Mr. P. S. Palande who was that time Commissioner of Pune, decided to create an activity center for children. Mr. Abasaheb Garware a well known industrialist took initiative and with Pune Municipal Corporation "Garware Balbhavan" started functioning on 1st September 1985.
(sections from the famous Marathi book by Shobha-tai titled "Aapali Mulay")
Every book has its own story. Readers like to understand how it came into being.
Speaking about this book - I have always liked children since I was young.
I have grown up playing with the children - in my neighbourhood, children
of family friends and acquaintances - taking them on trips, teaching them
and sometimes even hitting them while I was at it, loving them, quarrelling
with them. I had a particular fondness for cradling infants in my lap.
I was in Class VIth-VIIth, when, during the summer holidays in the month
of May, my family was making its annual trip to my ancestral village by train.
In the jam-packed train compartment, I was joyously cradling an infant
in my lap. The infant was burning with fever and died in my lap. The shock
of the infant's death shook me so deeply that upon reaching my village
I was in the sickbed with fever for two to three days after this incident.
As I grew this abiding affection and love for children blossomed, unknown,
within me. Supervising children and hearing their fun tales fascinated me further.
But this love for children took deep root within me only after I had children
of my own. After the birth of my first born, my first outing was an experience
that was at once both different and unique. A slum dwelling child from
the neighbourhood was playing on the street. As vehicles zipped closely by,
I could see my own baby's face in that child. I felt my love for children
had awakened me to an altogether new dimension.
When my children were growing I learnt that nice as the experience was,
it was just as confusing, thought-provoking and an invaluable learning experience.
I began to doubt if I possessed all the compassion, patience, cleverness
and fortitude that this experience required of me. I learnt this better
from my own hands-on practical experience rather than reading books and
understanding child psychology. Some books however did show me some new
paths on the road to parenting.
I scarcely imagined that I had thought and deliberated on this topic as
much as I had done, until I finished writing the articles in this book.
How much my heart and mind holds was revealed to me while writing this book.
I had previously written articles on children in "Stree" and "Sakal"
(both Marathi publications). These were liked by Megha Rajhans and Dileep
Majgaonkar who visited my office and asked me to write more on this topic.
I answered them with a "Yes" and began my article series in "Manus"
(another Marathi publication). These articles were completed because I was
being chased by a tiger named Megha! I feel closer than ever to this subject now.
Writing numerous articles on this topic, thoroughly researching it, understanding
the psyche and mind of the child and teaching the parents to understand it -
I now consider this as my vocation.
I openly admit that not a whole lot of research has gone into this book
- what it is, is an honest and complete exploration of the experiences
that I have encountered as a parent. This is my natural desire to constantly
explore unknown and unseen frontiers. Any knowledge, any education, any
research is ultimately only direct experience. Many times the web spun
by erudite language, complex compositions, grand and obtruse thought patterns,
difficult grammatical words conspire to prevent the freshness, the joy,
the flavour, the sweetness, the soul of direct experience from reaching us.
This is an attempt to bring to you the experience of understanding children
while preserving intact the inherent and complete sweetness of this experience.
This book is written for all who come in contact with children and who
does not? Albeit not external, but all of us have a child embedded in our
deepest recesses with whom we meet up. If we nurture and protect that
child and establish a rapport with the child, living becomes easier.
That is because the child acts in a true fashion driven by pristine,
natural tendencies. This natural, pristine beauty of our mind is what
we have lost. It is being stolen from us. We need to protect it with
conscious effort, care and love.
I was taken back in time to the days of my childhood in the process of
writing these articles. I understood better, how unknown to us brothers
and sisters, our parents had taught us so much in their simple, straight-forward
and loving behaviour. Bapu would have greatly liked to read these articles.
He would say, 'Write in a simple manner that we can understand" In writing
these articles, my husband Anil, children Shonil and Abha helped me a lot.
They spoke to me at length about these articles. All of us got much closer
on a very different level because of these articles.
Shribhau Majgaonkar inspired me to write. To spark the flame inherent
in you is my responsibility. To let me know how and what you felt after
reading all this is your responsibility.
-Shobha Bhagwat
Balbhavan has 50 well-educated, cultured office bearers whom the children affectionately call "older sister" or "Tai" (in Marathi). Each Tai is responsible for the group of children under her care. The daily programmes for children are designed and decided by these Tai's themselves who take great care to foster and protect the independence of children. Their primary effort is to understand the children in their group. They provide children with ample opportunity to do varied tasks all by themselves. The environment in every Tai's group promotes learning amongst the children with ease, comfort, freedom and joy.
Every year, Balbhavan conducts two training programmes. These are held
in the last fifteen days of the month of February and the month of July.
Anyone who is interested in working with children is eligible to attend these
training camps. There is no age or qualification restriction to attend these
camps. Parents, teachers, NGO personnel, members of self-help organisations,
grandparents, graduate and post-graduate students attend these camps. The
schedule of these training programmes includes talks by renowned experts,
workshops and direct personal experience of the entire experiment of child
development, successfully developed and pioneered by Balbhavan.
After receiving this training, numerous such Balbhavan's have been started
all over Maharashtra. Within Pune city itself, such Balbhavan's operate in
100 different locations spread all across the city.
Simply working with children does not solve their problems. A dialogue has been initiated with parents. With this in mind, special parent education classes are regularly conducted in Balbhavan.
From a very young age, children coming to Balbhavan have an awareness of
the socially marginalized children. They must come to know these children.
For this reason Balbhavan has been constantly reaching out to many children.
Our office bearers visit many such organisations and conduct children camps
there. Children camps are conducted in numerous small schools in rural areas.
Balbhavan organizes its camps and programmes in many villages to conduct
parents, teacher's and volunteers training camps. Children come to Balbhavan
from all strata of society. In the matter of admission to Balbhavan, priority
is given to children with special needs.
In times of social catastrophe (earthquakes, floods, fires, drought, tsunami,
riots) the children, parents and office bearers of Balbhavan voluntarily and
promptly collect money and relief material and dispatch them to the stricken people.